I have always been one of those clingy gf /wife... Especially now that my husband is in his DPA course for 6 months, he's so busy and has little time to text or call me, I think my clinginess got a lot worse...So, I googled and found this on wikihow...I try to sum it up...
3 WAYS TO BE LESS CLINGY
- Work on Yourself
- Build your confidence
- Learn to love yourself, make use of your special ability and addressing your flaws
- Work on your trust issues
- Let go of people who hurt you in the past and fell more open to trust people without being with them all the time
- Ease your anxiety
- Reduce your stress and try to tell yourself that it is ok to meet new people
- Talk to someone
- Talk to a close friend or family member and find the root cause of your clinginess
- Live a More Fulfilling Life
- Pursue your own interest
- Find your passion, try a fun exercise and work on your hobby to distract yourself and fill your time
- Pursue your own goals
- Set some short term goals, then make plan for long term one and write about it
- Expand your social network
- Be friendlier to your colleague, or get in touch with old friends
- Learn to like being alone
- Enjoy some 'me-time', it can be either walking, reading and so on.
- Volunteer
- Helping out your community, it can fill your time as well as expanding your social network
- Manage your Relationship
- Give people space
- Being apart with someone actually make that person appreciate you more
- Don't constantly text, call or 'show up' to hang out
- Take it slow when you meet someone new
- Take it easy and relax when you meet new person. Don't be too open and don't initiate every hangout
- Don't baby anyone
- Don't assume that people always need you to take care of them, if they need help, they'll ask
- Watch your body language
- Don't stand too close or hold hands the whole time, etc
- Don't get taken for granted
- It is often the downfall of being too clingy, so make it clear you have other people in your social network and other things to do
- Don't answer your phone or reply to text instantly every time
- Enjoy keeping a healthy distance
- Keeping a healthy distance will give you more time to work your on your own issues and you'll learn to love being alone sometimes
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